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Hump Day: Relationship Soup


You know that you can eat your fruits and veggies to be healthier, but what does it take for a relationship to become healthy? Here are some key ingredients for a healthy relationship:

·         Mutual respect. Respect in a relationship means that each person values who the other is and understands — and would never challenge — the other person's boundaries.
·         Trust. Jealous feelings may arise, but what one does with those actions counts the most. Remember you're both in this relationship, right?
·         Honesty. This one goes hand-in-hand with trust because it's tough to trust someone without honesty. 
·         Support. For the good and the bad- a supportive partner is there to cheer you on or cheer you up.
·         Fairness/equality. Have some give and take in a relationship.  Balance and equality help each other feel like each of you are valued the same.
·         Separate identities. Remember you were attracted to each other because of who you are and what you brought to the table- don't lose that.  Remain who you are and keep your own interests while learning about the other person and developing new interests, friends, and hobbies.
·         Good communication. Talk to each other!  If you are concerned about something or want to know what's really going on, just ask.  Open lines of communication do wonders for relationships.

So how do you know if you or a friend are in an unhealthy relationship?  

Does someone in the relationship...
·         get angry when their partner won't drop everything for him/her?
·         criticize the way their partner dresses?
·         threaten their partner?
·         keep their partner from seeing friends or from talking to any other guys or girls?
·         encourage their partner to quit an activity they enjoy? 
·         Ever threaten to hit or strike their partner?
·         Ever force sexual activity that is unwanted?

If you or someone you know has exhibited or experienced these behaviors, consider calling the JHU Counseling Center for further advice or an appointment.  Go online to: http://www.jhu.edu/ccenter/.